Kindness Acts Ideas
A few years ago, my mom started an Instagram account called LunchBoxQuotes.
She started it as a way to share a tradition of putting notes in her children’s lunchboxes during all their years in school and to share some quotes or thoughts she finds inspiring.
The first one she put up was one from Joseph B. Wirthlin:
Kindness is the essence of greatness
It’s such a simple thought yet so profound. I think that the virtue of kindness has gotten lost in today’s world.
People find it easier to not say hello to strangers, to avoid going out of their way, and may find it easier to say something mean rather than a compliment.
This isn’t the case for everyone, but it’s a trend that I’ve seen more and more as I’ve gotten old. Quite frankly, it makes me sad!
I’m not perfect – I am guilty of avoiding people at the store, not signing up at church for service, and for saying less-than-kind things about people.
It’s something I continually work on because I know when people are kind to me, it makes my life so much happier.
Kindness is also something I want to instill in my children because I believe it’s an attribute that will bring the most success and joy in life.
One of my favorite hymns we sing at church is called, “Have I Done Any Good in the World Today?” I absolutely love this rendition by Alex Boye and Carmen Rasmusen Herbert (she was on American Idol one season!)
There are so many ways to be kind — being willing to serve; sitting by someone at church you may not know; a simple smile even!
Being kind doesn’t take a lot of work, but it can make a huge difference in someone’s life.
I thought it would be fun to create a list of random acts of kindness. There are probably very few people who regret being kind.
However, I’m willing to bet there are many people who regret being mean, rude, or just disinterested.
It’s my goal to participate in more random acts of kindness in the future, and I hope this list will help you do that as well!
Also, all of these can be done at any time of year, but at the end of this post, I’ve put some that are specifically for the holiday season.
This post was originally written in 2014; it was updated in 2019.
Random Acts of Kindness List
1) Pay for the person’s meal behind you at a drive-through restaurant.
2) Make or buy dinner for a friend – drop off a gift card or send one via email (here are some meals that are great to take to other people)
3) Bring donuts or bagels to work
4) Leave quarters in a vending machine or washing machine for the next person.
5) Leave any coupons you don’t need on top of the products at the store.
6) Carry around snacks/drinks in the car to give to homeless people. You could buy one of these packages in bulk so you always have a nice variety.
7) Draw a picture (or have your child draw a picture) and send it to someone in the mail
8) Write a letter or send a “just because” greeting card to let someone know you were thinking about them
9) Write a letter to someone (teacher, parent, ecclesiastical leader, etc.) who has made a difference in your life and thank them
10) Leave a larger tip than you normally would
11) Offer to watch someone’s children so they can take a break
12) Tell a random parent you see that they are doing a good job
13) Smile!
14) Let someone go ahead of you at the grocery store
15) Buy a cookie for a child at the store
16) Donate children’s books/toys to a doctor’s office, a shelter, a daycare, etc.
17) Help someone carry their grocery bags
18) Drop off a book to someone who you think might like it
19) Make goodies for your neighbors
20) Let your spouse sleep in
21) Make your spouse/child/roommate etc. breakfast in bed (invest in a breakfast in bed table to make it even easier!)
22) Put a tip in a tip jar somewhere
23) Hide dollar bills at random places in the Dollar Tree with a note
24) Leave random sticky notes with fun or kind quotes on the mirror of a public restroom
25) Take someone’s cart back (or, gather up carts that others left behind)
26) Offer to give someone your cart as they are walking up to the store
27) Let someone have the better parking spot
28) Send flowers to someone anonymously (or pick them from your yard!)
19) Doorbell ditch a homemade treat
20) Go to a retirement center and visit with anyone who looks lonely
21) Pay the toll for someone behind you
22) Leave nice comments on random blogs
23) Compliment someone randomly (whether you know them or not!)
24) Drop off someone extra vegetables and fruits from your gardens to someone
25) Give up your seat on a bus
26) Buy dessert for someone at a restaurant anonymously
27) Clean someone’s windshield – leave behind the windshield scraper or a can of de-icer
28) Host a neighborhood lawn party
29) Send a thank-you note through the mail
30) Hold the door for someone
31) Find someone who is moving to give extra boxes to
32) Talk to the cashier at the store about their day
33) Buy lunch for someone
34) Help someone move (or offer to help clean)
35) Drop off a pizza to someone who just had a baby, had surgery, or you just think might need a break from dinner making
36) Volunteer somewhere – soup kitchen, homeless shelter, animal shelter, etc.
37) Leave tickets sitting around randomly at an arcade or fair or give them to a young child
38) Send extra copies of a nice photo to the people who are in them
39) Send a care package to a soldier, missionary, or college student
40) Pick up trash off the street
41) Leave laundry detergent behind for someone at a laundry place.
42) Leave a Redbox code and a box of popcorn at the RedBox machine
43) Leave a nice comment on someone’s picture or status on Facebook or Instagram
Christmas Acts of Kindness
It’s great to do random acts of service throughout the year, but during the holiday season, I think it’s especially important.
My church always does the “Light the World” campaign, which focuses on helping brighten the world around us. They always have a great calendar of ideas for ways you can serve.
Here are a few other holiday-specific random acts of kindness/service:
- Hand out gift cards at a store to people who you feel might need them
- Crochet hats or make fleece blankets. Hand out to people on the streets or to a local homeless shelter
- Adopt a family to help provide Christmas too
- Put money in the Salvation Army buckets that pop up everywhere
- Take a name off of a giving tree to buy a gift for
- Put a box of treats and drinks on your porch for delivery people
- Pay for someone’s layaway purchase at Walmart
- Sing Christmas carols and play games at a local retirement home
- Send Christmas cards to deployed members of the military
- Hand out gloves and mittens to the homeless
- Do the 12 Days of Christmas to someone
- Donate food to a food bank
- Hand out candy canes to students at school or co-workers
- Have a free hot cocoa station on a busy sidewalk
Elizabeth Ndambo says
look at how kind you are you didn’t give us exactly 40 ways to be kind but 43 of them.God bless you
M says
I feel like this is an eye opener that a lot of people (including myself) need to see. I have been living my life not trying to really care about others, but seeing this blog post pop up in my Pinterest feed has really showed me that I need to do some of these things. Finding happiness can sometimes mean spreading it to others first. Thank you for a good message 🙂
Jan says
Remember the local police, sheriff’s office, fire station, with a couple of pizzas or cookies. Would be nice for a teacher’s lounge also. The postman, trash pick-up, or someone at church. Last year when a friend was visiting on two occasions within a week strangers paid for our dinner in a restaurant! Now my friend thinks our town has the kindness people ever.
Elitan A. David says
Great reminders… Sometimes we get cut up with the worlds fast pace ‘xyz’ that we have little to no time to see the person next to us.
Thank you for bringing up the little acts of kindness we wished we did but seldom do.
@teamelitan
Debbie Freeman says
Wonderful article, thanks. Like you, I actively look for opportunities for RAKs. I’d like to add one that has both shocked and caused smiles, and, in 1 case tears. Thank the restroom cleaner if you pass them doing their job. Can you imagine facing each day doing that job? Airports, rest areas, stores, eye. Lots of opportunities. Recently at a large discount store I saw a senior cleaning the restrooms. I not only thanked her and told her how much I appreciated making my shopping trip more pleasant. I also gave her a substantial tip. Tears welled up in her eyes and mine. There is no better feeling than to know you lifted someone’s spirit.
Amanda K Hanes says
Awesome thank you for sharing this wonderful list of great ideas!!
Katie says
You’re welcome!
Lisa Gibson says
Thank you for the great ideas! Often we forget that as we give we are blessed in return, and making others happy blesses me for sure! I plan on using your ideas with my children.
Katie says
Thank you for commenting!
Lisa says
I like the idea of leaving notes for retail workers. I work at a four star hotel in the banquet department and we have to work all the major holidays, while some guests can be rude and demanding there have been some who have thanked us for working. This might seem small, but it makes my day so much better. Random acts of kindness puts a smile on so many faces. I know I quite often do small things for people just because.
Katie says
You never know how much a simple smile or thank you will affect someone’s day =)
Josefin Björnberg says
I read your blog you have shared a very good views about kindness. I agree with you the virtue of kindness has lost in today’s world. You have good views about kindness. I would like to inform you that government has opened many organizations for helping needy peoples. One Good deed organization is one of them who help needy peoples.
Katie says
Thank you for your comment! The government definitely has opportunities to help the needy 🙂
t says
your random acts of kindness list was great ! may i also add, living in Ohio , the winters can get very cold !!! at the dollar tree store they sell gloves in a 2 pack for $1.00 , or a really nicer pair for a $ as well
depending on which i get at the time . i try to keep these in my bag whenever i am at a bus stop waiting for my ride. you would be amazed at how many people havent any gloves this time of year.
hats , scarves , and disposable hand and foot warmers too !!!!!
one very cold winter day i saw 2 elderly people shivering on the sidewalk , asked the driver to pull over. how far are you going. climb aboard, i paid their fare .
many people have offered me a place in line when i ive only had a few items .
everyone usually holds the door open !!!
my most favorite act of kindness , when you see a veteran , thank each one for their service !!!!
possibly making a new friend , sharing some tears , and knowing they have not been forgotten !!!
Katie says
Thank you so much for sharing all of your ideas. They are great! I love the idea of getting gloves from the dollar store.
Christian Laplante says
The world needs more of this, but I’ll start today!
Rosi says
I love the ideas. Simple and wonderful things we can do daily and make the world a better place.
THANK YOU
Katie says
You are very welcome!
Jen says
I love this! Great ideas – simple.. yet meaningful. We need more kindness in this world
Carol says
I enjoyed your list of random acts of kindness very much. I am a great believer in doing any random acts of kindness whenever the opportunity presents itself. Sometimes a smile can do someone a world of good and lead to a short (or long chat). As I grow older I find it so much easier to give a stranger a compliment, a helping hand or just some time and attention. What’s surprising is how little it takes to cheer someone up and how satisfying it is to me to feel I possibly helped someone.
Katie says
Thank you for your thoughts – I really appreciate the time you took to share them. Kindness goes such a long way – there’s so much hate and sadness in the world, even the smallest act of kindness can make the biggest difference 🙂
Alex says
Thanks for this great list! There are a couple I do regularly, and was looking to up my game so I created a note on my phone with my favorites from this list. I’ll peek at it when I’m stuck in lines (instead of playing Candy Crush! haha) in case they remind me of a way I can bring a smile to someone in my vicinity. I’m actually going to keep post-its on me now because I like your idea of leaving a note on a mirror. Actually, it made me think of another implementation: retail workers often get stuck with crappy hours and crabby customers during the holidays, so there are certainly places I could leave encouraging notes for them (e.g. on the “employees only” door that’s at almost every retail store). Now, off to see if I can find some sweet quotes for those in case I have writers block 🙂
Katie says
Thank you so much for your comment! It makes me so happy that you found this list helpful. I think this world needs just a little more kindness, and it sounds like you are doing just that. I love the idea for leaving them on the door at retail stores – I can’t imagine how hard it can be working there (especially during the holidays, where people seem to take such a joyful time and stomp on it!) Have a great night!
Jocelyn Knight says
Thank you for the gentle reminders and very good ideas to make another’s day! Merry Christmas to you all. Blessings & belief.
Jocelyn Knight
Katie says
Thank you Jocelyn! I hope you have a wonderful Christmas as well.